I have recently found myself thinking about “WHY” I got cancer and the lessons that I was meant to learn from this.
Today, I realized that I have unlocked a major secret in something that has been blocking my own path to inner peace. I have found that in the search to “find myself” it’s really a realization that we want to find what makes up happy, what do we regret, what do we really want that will actually make us happy? But in that search, we must find our OWN flaws and understand what exactly it is we are doing that is standing in the way of that.
Growing up in Puerto Rico, I found that both my parents where unfortunately part of a generation of emotional immaturity. They where never taught how to truly process their emotions and “talk about it”. Neither where my grandparents, nor their parents before that. It is not until now, 2025, that we are allowing ourselves and society to break this cycle and finally speak up and ask questions. I am so glad I am part of this generation, for my sake, and that of my daughters.
The big lesson today is, I have been really resentful of having to tolerate people who are being ignorant, rude, lazy, sarcastic, etc. I was so tired of hearing “let them be”. Why? How is that fair? Why do they get to be that way and I have to just sit here and take it?
Well, I had to stop beating a dead horse. We’ve all head this saying a million times. What does it actually mean? It means that you need to stop asking more from people than what they are actually capable of providing. Like my therapist says, “you need to meet them where they are at”. Stop demanding people to change, do more, or do less than they can. People show you exactly who they are and what they can or are willing to do. If you are not receiving what you want/need, stop asking them. That is it. They can’t or will not. Now, YOU need to be emotionally mature and look somewhere else for what you need. My recent favorite quote, “if it’s not your toilet, it’s not your sh*t!” It is not your job to fix that person. They need to figure it out on their own and you need to stop looking in the wrong places for what you need.